Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Book Club: What Alice Forgot

I joined this book club and this was my second meeting with them. The book picked for the meeting was fantastic. A woman in her late thirties, married with three kids and going through a terrible divorce hits her head and forgets 10 years of her life. She wakes up thinking she just got married to the love of her life and that she is happily pregnant with their first child. The book really makes you think about how your choices affect the path of your life, how the things that were important to you lose focus over time, how you can grow apart if you don’t work to grow together and how we change.

One of my favorite questions in the back of the book asks something like: “What is the one thing that your younger self would be surprised at in your life today?”

Unfortunately although the book was fantastic I didn’t enjoy book club very much. These women are all coming together because we all have children but although the night started out ok I wasn’t thrilled with the underlying tone. I realize that being a new mom is hard, I realize that not everyone is in a happy and sunny place, I realize that there are husbands that upset us sometimes however what I didn’t really appreciate was the negativity about it all. Housework was complained about. Children were complained about. Husbands were complained about. And as one woman shared her story another would chime in.

Maybe I am being too sensitive. I realize book club to most means a little talk about the book and a giant gab fest but what I have been working on is when to walk away. I tend to dive into things head first, cannon balling into a group and trying them on for far longer than is needed. Instead with this group, I stood back and said after two meetings that this group isn’t for me. They just don’t fit right.

So now I am back to looking for another book club. I am going to check my local library. Hopefully soon I will find a book club home. I miss it.


paul peggy zeus said...

I don't think you're being too sensitive. There is a time and place for everything, and voicing negative feelings against those you love should be in a more private setting. One on one with your BFF, not at a group situation like this. I also feel uncomfortable when these kind of disparaging remarks are made in public. That's just my personal opinion.

Jess said...

If anything it makes you appreciate more just how NOT unhappy you are with a lot of things. I do miss bookclub. But for me it is the human interaction as well as the melding of minds that I miss most. Since I have definitely not stopped reading. You can always read The Female Brain and we can have our own mini book club. Maybe we can just skype in our east coast counterparts :)

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