Monday, November 28, 2011

Therapy: Holiday Optimism

For the first 27 years of my life I lived by a specific motto. That hardwork and stubbornness coupled with doggedness rarely fails in the end. I was a master of my fate, in control of the outcome I wanted with my life. Going to college, having a great carrer, getting married and buying a home; nothing could get in my way of my goals. And then in just a few short years I failed with three things that no matter how hard I tried I could not control. My brother passed away, I developed an eating disorder and I have lost two pregnancies.

Most people deal with loss and disappointment in a healthy way because they have dealt with loss and disapoinement throughout their lives. I was super blessed in my life and for 27 years nothing bad ever really happened, everything I wanted I got and the world seemed to me a place I understood. The difficult lesson I am trying to learn is that you cannot control everything, no matter how hard you try some things are just out of your reach, and that nothing is perfect.

There was a fantaistic quote in a documentary I saw recently that really hit home with me. The woman said “The youth today (meaning anyone under 50) didnt have the beneifits of growing up in the great depression that I did.” What she meant was that having a difficult childhood and coming from so little she was able to have perspective as an adult. I keep thinking about that quote, it hasn’t left me.

During the holiday season I am able to look at life with more optimism than I do the rest of the year. Maybe my new years resolution should be to attempt to see the glass half full more often.


Anonymous said...

That is a beautiful idea darling. I say go for it, I'm going to try and do the same. Although it might be easier to see the negative side of any situation, because it's what we want to do naturally- The harder route of glass half full is probably more worth it, and healthier in the long run!

lilmansworld said...

try not having such a big glass too helps :)

paul peggy zeus said...

That quote must be older than that. People who are in their 50's and even 60's never saw the Great Depression. My mom did, though.

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