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Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Michigan: Black, Rainy, Sad Day

It is a grey and rainy day and so fitting for the third and final day for my grandfathers funeral. My grandfather had been part of the Air Force so he was getting honoured today for his service to the United States. I had never been to a service with these honours and I thought it was very fitting. There was the emblem on the hearst, a 21 gun salute, and the presentation of the United States flag to my father.


THE EMBLEM ON THE SIDE OF THE HEARST


TWENTY ONE GUN SALUTE


THE FLAG AND BULLETS PRESENTED TO MY FATHER

It was a terrible four hours and I am going to miss him so much.


THE LAST PHOTO THAT I HAVE OF US AT MY WEDDING FIVE MONTHS AGO

After the funeral the whole family went back to the house. It seemed wildly inappropriate but because my mother, my father and I are all leaving very early in the morning tomorrow and since we don’t plan on returning anytime soon we were asked to make lists, by my aunt the executer of the estate, of what we wanted. It was a painful process. No one wants to see the dismantling of a home we have all kept at the center of our heart, the home of our matriarch, the center of every holiday and happy get together with the family. It made me sick but I was able to choose some things that meant a lot to me. Things that I will keep forever to remind me of the love we shared and the happy times we had.

- Crystal bowl and cake plate – Every Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas we would all get together at my grandparents house and surround the table in huge feasts. The centerpeices of our feast were the huge Crystal bowl filled with homemade fruit cocktail and the crystal cake plate holding the desert. I can not remember one year without it and now I can continue their use in my own future family holidays.





- Crystal Charm – This charm may not look like much but it hung from the rear view mirror of my grandmother’s and then my grandfather’s car for as long as I can remember. I fondly recall lying in the back seat as we drove around and staring at the sunlight casting prisms across the car. I remembered thinking that it is magical. Weirdly enough my parents are I were driving my grandfathers car, we were talking about how much I loved this crystal and how it was one of the few things that I would like, and the crystal hanging off the rear view mirror like always fell at my feet in the car. Maybe it is just a coincidence that it fell at that particular moment, maybe it was the crazy erratic driving that I do, or just maybe if you believe in it it could be a sign from my departed grandpa that he wanted me to have it to.



- St. Christopher Necklace – My grandfather never took this necklace off once for as long as anyone can remember. I was surprised that the family gave this to me but I will keep it as a most precious memento.



Things that I will remember forever in the house that I was not able to keep were grandmothers stain glassed lamp and the angel they had always lit in their home at night. I will however keep these photos and carry the memories with me forever of them.





I have never cried so hard writing before. My heart is breaking.

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