Life Talk

I have always been a believer in talking to the person you are dating about life goals, ideas, beliefs and expectations of your future life. Even though 99% of my relationships did not make it to the accepting of the ring phase it is good to have light conversations about what you both are looking for in the long run. Now it is never good to bombard a man that you are dating with all these questions but over the course of Mr. Rogues and I 3 year courtship we were able to get the basics down. After the engagement band went on my finger I felt that subjects that I would have normally skirted around were now open for honest debate. Needless to say we had a lot of things nailed down already, or at least the things that were most important to us. I think in general we had very similar ideas of what we wanted out of life. We come from very similar backgrounds, we are both from homes that nurtured and loved us, we both had amazing childhoods and we were both confident in the future together.

When I found out that we needed to do couples therapy before the wedding with our minister I was a little bit shocked but also a little bit intrigued. Our minister is wonderful, a man I have known almost all my life, talking to him about some of the things was a bit awkward but in the long run both Mr. Rogue and I found the experience pretty easy primarily because we had most of the questions that the minster asked already answered. I felt really good after our third session almost like we got an A in the counselling. And I love me an A. Hopefully we will also get an A for our marriage and live happily ever after.