What Wouldn’t You Do

I have gathered some of the best advice ever from variety of sources, some from my mother, some from both grandmothers, and some that I have figured out myself, and it had to do with keeping your man happy.

1. I think of my man in a different way, I think of him as I did when I first started dating him as someone who I desperately wanted to make happy and keep. After a time this will diminish unless you keep that knowledge in the forefront. Think about how the girl at the bar sees him, think about the coworkers who has a crush on him sees him, think about how you would feel if you lost him. So what wouldn’t you do to keep him.

2. I make sure that I keep myself busy and entertained. It is not his job to make me interesting or to have fun. There is time where I am busy and he has time to himself. I make sure I don’t become just a couple that does everything together, alone time is good to grow separately and then bring the best that you learned home to your partner. Also I encourage him in his hobbies and his friends. I make sure I do not jealously keep all his free time for myself because if I did in the end he would resent me.

3. I don’t get upset with him about every little thing that makes me upset. There are times when things really make you angry and yes you should talk about it with your man but really I do NOT blow up at him when he leaves his towel on the floor for the millionth time, or does not sort the silverware exactly how I want it sorted. I like to think about it like the boy who cried wolf. If you bitch about every little thing then eventually he will stop listening and when something truly matters to you then it may be glossed over. ALSO it is just as easy to pick up that towel or quickly resort the silverware as it is to yell and complain.

4. I found a few things that my man loves, that he considers me pampering him and I do them often. It makes him feel loved and respected and it makes me feel good to make sure I am giving him the things he needs to be happy. If I concentrate on his happiness and he concentrates on mine then neither of us have to worry to much about ourselves.

5. Lastly I don’t tell my man what to do with his life or his job. I am sure that tune may change in the future when we have children but for now I let him make his own mistakes, his own crazy schedule and I let him make his own rules. The only thing that I ask for is that he lets me know as much as possible in advance weather or not he is going to not be home for dinner or if he needs to cancel a plan that we have made so I can make accommodations to be busy and not just sitting at home watching the clock. I know that this is one of the things he appreciates the most about me.

In the short I just try to do for him what I want in return, a wonderful, loving, non-demanding person who will love me and let me be me.