My Something Big And Shiny

My mother was ecstatic. We all knew it was going to happen, hopefully sooner than later, and after two minutes of happiness her brain switched to planning mode. Unfortunately I live very far away from her AND I thought I knew what I wanted but now I am not so sure. Another hiccup is that we are about to leave for the Philippines and that trip is going to disrupt trying to pick a day for the wedding as we have to decide what type of wedding we want before we can move forward. I will have to plan a trip to Michigan to figure this out and check out some places for options. In the mean time I know have a lot to do at work, looking at anything and everything wedding.

Telling my dad was fun, he said congratulations and when are we going to meet you in Vegas. VEGAS as if I would NEVER have my wedding there.

Mr. Rogue’s parents, after their congratulations at getting engaged, we got the conversation about how long a wedding takes to plan and that maybe it would be just better to go down to city hall, as a matter of fact you can make it tomorrow they encouraged because today it is closed by now. SERIOUSLY are you kidding me. I waited my whole life for this day and I am not sullying it by going down to the court house with no family and friends. Although I understand their religious issues with us living together before we are married and their need to see us officially linked there is no way I am going down to the court house to get married.

All in all it is SUPER happy day, I get to spend the rest of my life with the most wonderful man I know AND I got a big shiny piece of jewelry. A ring that I love love love.



Here is an interesting story of how giving the wedding ring came to be:“Until the 1930’s a woman jilted by her fiancé could sue for financial compensation for “damage” to her reputation under what was known as the “breach of promise to marry” action. As courts began to abolish such actions, diamond ring sales rose in response to a need for a symbol of financial commitment from the groom, argues the legal scalar Margaret Brinig- noting, crucially, that ring sales began to rise a few years before the De Beers campaign. To be marriageable at the time you needed to be a virgin, but, Brinig points out, a large percentage of women lost their virginity while engaged. So some structure of commitment was necessary to assure betrothed women that men weren’t just trying to get them into bed. The “Breach of Promise” action had helped prevent what society feared would be rampant seduce-and-abandon scenarios; in its lieu, the pricey engagement ring would do the same. (implicitly, it would seem, a woman’s virginity was worth the price of a ring, and varied according to the status of her groom-to-be” M. O’Rourke, “Diamonds are a girls worst friend” (slate.com)